Monthly Archives: May, 2010

Some weird realities

There is nothing real about those ‘star studded reality shows’. The so called ‘reality stars’ engage in all sort of weird, scandalous and stupid talks and arguments throughout the show and literally make a hue and cry about even the smallest thing that happen in the show. Yet this has now become the underlying reason people to watch such shows, rather than the dancing or singing that are being conducted in the show.

Yesterday I happened to see a celebrity dance reality show. More than a dance show, I felt it should be renamed as a celebrity gossip show when I heard the host asking one of the participants about how she feels to see her ex-boyfriend as a member of the opposite team. I really don’t understand why such a question was asked in that show, as the question had absolutely nothing to do with the show or the acts that they perform there. That single question created a long ‘drama’ for about 10-15 minutes and also had some absurd music played in the background. How can they ask such a question in a TV show, and how come a person discuss that in a show just for the sake of money and ratings?

I was literally taken-aback or rather felt weird when I heard the hosts asking such stupidest questions and discussing about them every now and then. The cast and the crew were repeatedly saying that these were not pre-scripted and were not meant to raise public demand. The more they said, the more such acts looked funny and strange as they always made it a point to create some fabricated situations to ask such stupid questions.

I felt the very same weirdness when the participants cried for the silliest things that happen in the show. Do they really feel that the viewers will also cry along with them? May be some hardcore fans of the show, but definitely not all! I found it pretty hard to believe those delicate hearted people and their tears. It looked more or less like a decoy to increase the TRPs, as it looked really pointless to cry for such silly things that happen in the show.

Altogether the show was looking very much artificial and far-fetched. Is it the same with all the other ‘reality’ celebrity shows? If so, I really feel sorry for those who watch them with eagerness.

Please take a second look at yourself and your kids!

“Hey! That’s the new trend!” I often hear this from my friends when I don’t become broadminded enough to appreciate the filmy costumes that they wear, even to their offices at times. I find it difficult to shower praises for such dresses which may perhaps look fine when I see it being worn by the glamorous babes of silver screen. But if someone wears the same in day-to-day life it’s not something I would really appreciate. Fashion trends should always be looked upon as per the situation and circumstances that we are in to, and not just our convenience and happiness. You can’t follow trends just for the sake of doing that. I would say that following something wisely is different from following it blindly, and many people now are blind followers of fashion, and this becomes really awkward when even children are made to wear certain ‘X-rated’ dresses in the name of fashion. I have seen many parents who make children wear skinny tops & short skirts and boast about how they follow the trendy fashion statements. Please do keep in mind that fashion statements and trends are to be followed but only after knowing the edge between decency and vulgarity. But it’s really sad to see that nowadays people are at times very strange in choosing fashion. It won’t cost the earth to take time to think about what’s that you can wear and what you can’t. You can find your own decent style rather than being a fashion victim.

Something related to this is the way kids are dressed up for some dance reality shows which are being conducted these days. Last week I happened to see a dance reality show where I saw a kid dancing to a Hindi item number. Barely ten years of age, but she wore a very short skirt and a highly revealing top. Her dance had very cheap moves which we usually see in films when a seductress dances to attract a man. Thank God! One among the senior judges in the show was sensible to stop her then and there and to advice her mother not to make her child do such cheap performances just for the sake of publicity. It’s really sad to see children dressing up & dancing like strippers. How disgusting!

I really want to ask something to those parents who entertain these. Why do you shoo your children on seeing women and men dressed in obscene way or doing any intimate scenes in TV, when you are training your kids to become one such in near future?

Blogging Ahoy!

I was wondering why I am not writing anything these days. I had made up my mind to write something amid my work schedule but somehow couldn’t make it happen.

I never used to bottle up anything inside my heart, as I always used to write them in my blog. But when I had Shirley with me, I rarely had anything to pen-down. My blogging had to take a backseat as she used to be my wonderful listener. But now that I have to give her the privacy that she needs (she got married to her dear ‘chachan’ last month), writing is what I feel as the best option, like how I always used to.

But I think it is really good to have someone who can listen to you, and I have always felt that she is the best listener I have ever seen. After meeting her, even I too wanted to change a little more and be a better listener. There is a big reason behind this. When we have something bad happening around us, or when we don’t feel good, we need someone to whom we can share our difficult emotions. It is not at all for any sort of solutions, as most of us are smart enough to tackle our problems easily. But you would definitely long for someone to whom you can just share our feelings, or someone who listens and understands us and say a word of comfort in the most tender and loving way. May be in a few simple words, but those words have a lot to give. They make us really feel better and take us back to a stable state from where we can think about a satisfying solution to the baffling issue that we have.

To avoid uncomfortable feelings at work place or personal life is not easy. But we can tackle these challenging parts of our life with the help of a good friend. For me, my blog has always been my best companion. I used to bottle up everything inside my heart before, but later started to write in my blog. Comments, good and bad and at times worst and offensive, slowly started pouring in. I threw away the worst and offensive and accepted the good as well as the bad ones.

Then came Shirley, and I slowly started slipping away from writing a little, as I always had an opening to share my thoughts. Now that I want to give her the needed privacy, I have to depend on my blogging and will be writing about my happiness, turmoil and tensions again.

Some of my readers had commented very badly about my blogs, saying that I take this as a platform to give away my frustrations. But it’s not true.

I have to work my ass off the whole day; inexplicably tiring, yet I try my best to find happiness. Well, I know that it’s not a great thing as we all do work very hard, don’t we? But it’s difficult to handle selfish and backbiting corporate environment alone. Here it’s all about winning as much as you can, and how you achieve it is not an issue. You are always free to trample the hard work, dedication and emotions of others to get a quick victory. Back to hostel, I have my music system and my books to spend time. But I think writing is the best or rather a great thing that one can adopt, rather than ruminating all alone over repetitive thoughts. Why not share it with others???

So blogging ahoy!