Monthly Archives: July, 2010

Why women walk behind men?

I was on my way to office when I saw something that made me write this. A man was walking towards me and behind him I could see his wife carrying their kid, trying hard to keep-up with his pace. I was literally stunned seeing that the man didn’t even bother to look behind or even to walk in a slow pace so that his wife could walk along with him. Why does this happen? Why can’t he walk along with her or at least share the responsibility of carrying their kid? Poor woman! She was literally panting by the time they reached the bus stop where I was waiting. I have seen many situations like this before and always used to get baffled seeing those women who walk behind men. Do they think it as a mockery if a woman walks in front of they or even next to them? Why can’t they walk hand in hand which sweeter than having someone follow them? It will also give the women a feeling of care and love.

I have seen the practice of women walking behind men during weddings and always wonder why we do this. Why should women be always in the back and follow the man? This continues even after marriage. For men, they take it as their right to walk in front of women and not to bother her even if she is carrying a handful of heavy bags and their kid together. And women, they accept it as a man’s privilege and don’t even bother to question this. I find it ridiculous when women themselves consider as someone worth less than a man.
This practice has almost become a cultural norm, that I do not understand why even educated women do this? This is wrong! It degrades women’s identity and this is why people look-down upon women even in this 21st century.

Being a writer

This post got triggered off when I heard someone making a comment that writing is not something which can be taken a serious profession, and one should always go for engineering or medical degrees or even law, to have a ‘safer’ career. Whenever someone asked me about my ambition even I never used to say that I wanted to become a writer. I used to have the stereotyped answer that most of the kids had; either a doctor or an engineer. But frankly speaking, I knew very well that I am not going to take up both. Those answers were just for the sake of avoiding the thunderstruck faces of my family and the society, especially those people who make faces when they hear about a person ho wants to do something different. Destiny had already planned something for me and I took up writing as my profession, something I always liked. I am not an accidental writer. Because despite all those stereotyped answers that I gave others, I always had a love for books and creative writing.

I always did whatever possible to read and improve my language skills. But I don’t remember having written much in my school time. I was sort of scared at that time to show my scribbles to others. I still remember how my teachers used to ask me to write, whenever they see me reading books. I didn’t actually have the guts to publish them. I used to feel that I need to grown-up a little more and wanted more time to brush up my skills. My high school teachers would probably laugh when they come to know that I write and publish my writings.

But believe me, I’m not someone who has read the works of all authors, past or present, because I don’t read books which don’t fit in to my thought process. And I never select books based on the number of prizes that it received. I have seen many people selecting books just because on the awards that it has won. Most of them even don’t bother to look at the topic discussed in it. I can tell you an example for that. Once I had attended an interview for the post of editor for one of the leading publishing houses here. The Managing Director of the publishing house who was proud of his bloodline, his MBA from UK and the voracious reader in him, asked me a lot of questions one by one, about books, reading and writing. I answered all of them. Finally he asked me about a Booker Prize winning book which I had not read. “It’s a Booker Prize winning book and you have not read it, shame on the reader in you!” said the to-be boss, sitting back sipping his coffee. I replied that prizes are not my criterion of selecting books. I read only if I am interested in what’s said about in that book.

I love to write about whatever I read about. My creative writing is about having fun by taking up a good, crispy writing style throwing away the hard and fast rules of writing. Be free to express yourself in the way you want with the language you have.

I am a content writer now, someone whom my company can program according to the arising needs. I have now started getting used to writing about every topic that I get. Plunking myself in front of a PC close to the main door of the office, I teach the world about beauty, dresses, travel, medical science, web design and a lot many topics, through my writings. But still I make sure that I select topics which I can handle.

A good personal entertainment that brings me a good sum of money every month, I don’t think you can find such a profession anywhere else in the world.

A great song worth listening to

I happened to hear “Madhno” from the movie Lamhaa yesterday. Great composition & lyrics I should say and the singers have also done a really fantastic job, by singing the song with all the needed emotions. There is no overdoing in the whole composition and has no extra musical instruments, but only those which are needed for the song. I generally don’t prefer songs where a lot of musical instruments are played. It often kills the beauty of the song and the charm of the singer’s voice. But “Madhno” is really apt for my taste as it has all that I prefer in a good song. Something like “instantly likeable”, that’s what I can say about the song, as it infuses immense soothe and calmness in to the hearer’s mind and soul in no time. Soulful tunes and right lyrics along with an apt voice makes a good song and I think “Madhno” has all these in the form of Mithoon , Kshitij and Chinmayi. I am already a big fan of Chinmayi and her song “Varaayo Vaarayo” from “Aadhavan”. I am sure that this song will become another feather on her cap. “Madhno” has a slight touch of Kashmiri folk songs; may be because the story is based on Kashmir Valley. But this song has once again proved that a good song is loved better than blaring noisy music and meaningless lyrics that we hear these days. I couldn’t enjoy the song much in Mika’s voice. I didn’t feel it as mesmerizing as Kshitij’s. This does not mean that Mika’s version is bad. I just want to say that I prefer Kshitij-Chinmayi version than the other one. Altogether a smooth flowing song has been added to the list of superb tracks in my playlist like “Maula Mere”. I mentioned “Maula Mere”in particular here as the beginning of “Madhno” is more or less similar to “Maula Mere”. Do checkout for the song and enjoy!